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Need to change second marriage laws

Take a case of healthy young man and woman who marry and start their conjugal life but after some years and decades one partner becomes physically and mentally incapable of genital sex and thus leave their spouse in lurch. Such things were happening since antiquity but now such things are happening in epidemic proportions and with new faces. Suppose husband becomes drug addict and just sleeps and this continues for years. I know one nurse whose husband is drug addict and they had no sex for last ten years and more. Then husband may become porno addict- he sees porno but does not do sex with his wife. Then husband forces wife for anal sex and oral sex. When I was in medical college, my colleagues from Eastern U.P. used to tell that in one district there are men who say to their wives your rear portion is mine and I will not tolerate it to be shared though you are free to go any man with front portion. Then there are real tragedies – the husband becomes paralyzed because of illness or injury. The husband becomes mental wreck. The problems may be from the beginning when husband or wife may have genital malformation. I know a married man who was eunuch. The family allowed younger brother to have sex relation with wife of that man. The woman may loathe having sex or she suffers dyspareunia making her husband unable to do sex with her. There may be diseases and cancer of those parts making sex impossible. The Divorce is not real solution. The real solution is making marriage void. If for six months or say some other stipulated time one partner fails to provide gemital satisfaction the marriage should be considered void and other partner should be free to choose another spouse. Then comes issue of humanity – the deprived spouse does not want to leave his or her spouse who is paralyzed and unable to take his or her own care. Under such conditions, there must be Three or Four member alliance. After marriage becoming void the paralyzed partner may live as brother or sister to new couple who will take his or her care. The husband of paralyzed wife and wife of paralyzed husband may marry and both taking care of their former husband or wife as brother and sister living in Four member alliance.

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