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स्त्री और पुरुष के वक़्त के साथ बदलते रिश्ते

पुरुष के लिए स्त्री का साथ बहुत ज़रूरी है और कई पुरुष पत्नी की मृत्यु के बाद ज़िंदा नहीं रह पाते लेकिन अगर वे तुरंत दूसरी जीवन साथी खोज पाते तो लम्बी उम्र ज़िंदा रहते। सती प्रथा तो पहले होती थी पर आज बेटे बहू बेटी दामाद माँ की मृत्यु के बाद यही चाहते हैं कि उनका बाप विधवा जीवन जिए। ऐसे ही वे नासमझ स्त्री पुरुष हैं जिनकी उम्र गुज़रती जा रही है और बिन ब्याहे बैठे हैं और वह भी जो तलाक़ या जीवन साथी की मृत्यु के बाद जल्दी से दूसरा जीवन साथी नहीं ढूंढ लेते हैं। पर एक बहुत बड़ी तादाद उन मर्दों और औरतों की भी है जो नापसंद रिश्तों का बोझ उठाये हुए हैं और जिनकी तमन्ना है काश उनकी ज़िन्दगी में बहार फिर से आये - शरीयत इजाज़त देती है पर समाज और हुकूमत सिपर लिए खड़े हैं। बच्चों की खातिर नापसंद रिश्ते को निभाना तारीफ़ की बात है पर जब बच्चे बड़े हो जाएँ अपने पैरों पर खड़े हो जाएँ और अपना घर बसा लें तो अगर शरीके हयात ज़ुल्म या खयानत करता हो तो अलग हो जाने में ही भलाई है। नेकी का तक़ाज़ा यह है कि ऐसे मर्द अपनी बीवी के लिए और ऐसी औरत अपने शौहर के लिए पहले शरीके हयात का आगे बढ़ कर इंतज़ाम कर दे। बचपन से जवानी और अब अ...
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Need to change second marriage laws

Take a case of healthy young man and woman who marry and start their conjugal life but after some years and decades one partner becomes physically and mentally incapable of genital sex and thus leave their spouse in lurch. Such things were happening since antiquity but now such things are happening in epidemic proportions and with new faces. Suppose husband becomes drug addict and just sleeps and this continues for years. I know one nurse whose husband is drug addict and they had no sex for last ten years and more. Then husband may become porno addict- he sees porno but does not do sex with his wife. Then husband forces wife for anal sex and oral sex. When I was in medical college, my colleagues from Eastern U.P. used to tell that in one district there are men who say to their wives your rear portion is mine and I will not tolerate it to be shared though you are free to go any man with front portion. Then there are real tragedies – the husband becomes paralyzed because of illness or i...

God or no God – it is not the real issue!

God or no God – it is not the real issue! The real issue is our historical past and its relation to the humanity. All those people who are living today have a chain of ancestors generation to generation. Many people who lived in the past may have no descendant today in the modern World because their chain terminated somewhere. The real issue is what our ancestors did in the past with other people, with womenfolk, with natural resources. Whether they invaded other people, subjugated them, killed and raped, destroyed their culture, religion, language and heritage? Did they forcibly convert others. All these were crime against humanity and cannot be hidden under garb of religion, monotheism, racial or caste supremacy. Now we must accept that all people are equal amd have human rights as outlined in Universal Declaration of Human Rights 1948.

Flood of anti-God and anti-Religion videos on You Tube

Nowadays, posting videos on You Tube are the main instrument of influencing others. There were days when in my adolescence I took the side of Science against Religion. But when we see the human history and see the political conditions of modern times then we see subjugation, exploitation and injustices all around and in the past. The same people who preached Religion and Spiritualism to dominate and rule over others are now preaching Atheism and materialism and consumerism for that very purpose. Those who believe in Human Equality and in Brotherhood and Sisterhood of whole mankind must unite and must stand and fight those who are enemies of Human Equality and Human brother/sisterhood. Everywhere fascists have ascended to power and those who believe in Humanity have become weak though 80 percent World needs active intervention to attain freedom and equality. The people who believe in Humanity they must come forward and lead and guide those 80 percent people.

Challrenge of Alzheimer Disease and other human difficulties

In our history we find that something starts as rare problem and then takes global shape. It appears that Nature poses challenges to make us more evolved more civilized or we may say wants to make us more human. A baby is born in human family who has some instincts like suckling and swallowing and then baby learns to stand and walk, to eat and drink and to put on and put off clothes and recognizes family members and others including animals and birds and learns to communicate. All these learning are possible through neural connections deep in brain. The baby grows becomes young and then in due course of time becomes old and then some get those neural connections failed. Now learning and memory fails- he or she becomes incapable to perform all those simple routine jobs. He or she loses memory and is now incapable to recognize his or her near and dear ones. We must take all this as if our near and dear has died just before becoming incapable and Nature was kind enough in keeping her amon...

Our obsession with Death and Dead

For last millions of years since the origin of life, living beings are getting born and died. The death of members of our species horrifies us and postmortem changes and putrefaction makes it impossible for us to let it remain with us. The human bings have tried many ways to deal with it from mummification to burial, cremation and leaving it to be fed by vultures. In our country most of the families practice cremation or burial of dead body. These things can be done very simply but these things are done elaboraterly and ritually that makes them very taxing upon mind, time and purse of bereaved families. There is no sense in giving bath and wrapping shroud to the dead body – the dead body may be wrapped in a sheet over clothes already worn. We must understand that that person is no more and nothing is going to help him or her and it is quite likely that he or she is in better status if there is any existence after death and if there is no existence after death then there is no sense i...

Gender bias in our language and thinking

Viewing things either as male or as female has distorted our perceptions. Only some living things are male and female and even such things require gender free word most of the times. For example a human being needs to be addressed by some common word but the common word ‘man’ has been taken by male of the species. The male has penis and female has womb- so woman is correct word for female of human species and accordingly male of human species must be called ‘peman’ while man should be used where there is no need to express gender. At microscopic level, the female gamete remains at one place and male gamete reaches it and gets attached. 1. Most harm has caused to our thinking and feelings by understanding God in male image. 2. Many things having nothing to do with sex dichotomy are understood as male or female- for example in Hindi palang is masculine while kursi and mez are feminine. 3. Even our emotions are treated as masculine or feminine for example pyaar is masculine and muhabbat ...